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The scars that infidelity leaves behind lasts forever.

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“Bad marriages don’t cause infidelity; infidelity causes bad marriages.” – Frank Pittman

The topic of infidelity and cheating spouses is everywhere. No matter how perfect a love story seems, every relationship has its ups and downs. When one cheats, it leads to an onslaught of feelings that most marriages can’t survive. It becomes difficult for the person to trust again. It causes unexplainable and really deep scars. These entrenched issues are not often changeable.

The best way to explain this is with this beautiful excerpt I read. It’s a heart wrenching narration by a husband who cheated on his wife. The title of this excerpt is ‘I cheated.’

“I married my long time girlfriend. The first few days, I was ecstatic. The first few months, I was contended. But after three months, I made the greatest mistake of my life. I cheated on her.”

“I don’t know what had gotten into me. Maybe the girl I met was very different from my wife. She was wild, while my wife was as soft as a marshmallow.”

“I hid it from her for more than a month. I went home late, I made sure I showed no traces of my mistress on me before I entered our house.”

“And then the big news came. My wife was having twins. We were having twins. So her pregnancy was very hard since she was a petite woman.”

“Day after day, my conscience got to me. I got guiltier more and more, until I told my mistress that I wanted to stop. But she didn’t want us to. She insisted that she made me happier than my wife ever did. She said that she loved me.”

“But going home every night to my wife, seeing her innocent smile and the way she would ask how my day went, the way she hugs me, and kisses me, and takes care of me, her I love you’s… I didn’t want to let that go.”

“So I stopped my affair with my mistress, and I told everything to my wife. And when I saw her broken expression, how I wanted to turn back time. How I wanted to just die right there.”

“She didn’t yell at me. She didn’t hurt me physically. She didn’t throw a fit. She just stood there, and cried silently.”

“I thought she would never forgive me. I thought she would file a divorce immediately. Because I would’ve understood if she did. But she forgave me. She made me promise not to do it again. She said…she said she’ll be better. She said she’ll try to be good enough for me.”

“That’s when it hit me. Everything was my fault, but because she loved me, she blamed herself. I tried making it up to her. We continued on with our lives together, but I knew that things would never be the same.”

“She never told me, but I know that every night, she cries herself to sleep. She still has nightmares about it, she still wonders where she went wrong.” “I scarred her for life.”

He further puts out a message for all the readers. The message read, “To other men out there, don’t ever cheat on your partner. You may not know what the impact is on your wives/girlfriends.”

You never know what consequences your actions may lead to. So, never cheat on your significant other. If your relationship is not going too well, work on it, fix it, put in all your efforts. Don’t make it an excuse. Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice.